This is also considered a passive form of defensiveness. Rather than wait for you to question your spouse’s whereabouts, they may choose to give you full details of where they are. If you find your spouse calling you to tell you who they are with, what time they arrived, what time they left, what they were doing, and why there were there …you should start to ask yourself why they are so eager to tell you all of this. This is more obvious if you haven’t even asked them what they are up to.