If you notice bruises or scratches on your spouse, you should definitely ask. If they act strangely or extremely defensive when you ask, it may be a sign that there is something else going on. Those bruises could be from wild sex or worse, a fight with the person that they are cheating on. Keep an eye out for such types of changes to appearance.

This can also be considered picking fights. Does your spouse take the smallest thing and blow it out of proportion. Are they so overwhelmed by discontent that they have to, “just get out of here” all the time? This is a common tactic of cheaters.

Your spouse may want to avoid any reason for you to think there is anything wrong with the relationship. It’s very possible that problems within the relationship led them to cheat in the first place. As they seek a way to keep everything in order, they may decide to suddenly become easy going about everything. They may become completely agreeable to everything and not question any decisions you make. This is also a dangerous sign because it means that they are disengaging from the relationship.

There are many reasons for a cheater to pick fights. Stress from juggling multiple relationships can lead to conflict in the home. Fights are often used to deflect attention from the deception at hand. They may also pick fights to justify storming out of the house and taking “hours” to cool off. If you notice that you are always having fights for the slightest of reasons and whenever there is a fight they are quick to storm out of the home late at night, they may be using this as an excuse to see their secret lover. Don’t be deceived by this ploy.

Has your lover started behaving suspiciously? Have they started bringing you gifts whenever you have conflict. This may be an attempt to keep peace in the house at whatever cost. If your lover wasn’t a gift giver before, you should be suspicious.

Picking fights serves multiple purposes in a cheating situation. As a starter, it’s a way to try and get your partner to leave you. This absolves the cheater of guilt for ruining the relationship. Secondly, picking fights for random things will divert your attention from the real problem at hand – the fact that they are cheaters. Cheaters will want to pick fights to keep the attention on the relationship and also to help you feel that the problems are just between the two of you. If you notice small thing being blown out of proportion and being escalated into full fights for no reason, there may be something else going on.