Cheating lovers will get gifts for the people they are cheating with. It’s common for them to purchase gifts in duplicate. Chocolates for their lover and an extra box for their spouse. Or a special shirt and then getting one for their spouse too. Also, when this duplicate gift giving happens, it’s generally given when something significant happens in the affair. For example – if there’s an anniversary for when the affair started, your lover may want to get his secret lover chocolates. But they figure, since they’ve purchased these for the lover, they should get some for you too. The date you get the chocolate will have no meaning to you but it will have meaning to the person sleeping with your partner. In the main relationship the gift will seem out of place, appearing for apparently no reason. Because the gift will have been for the person in the affair, the choice may not be applicable to you either. Beware if you start getting odd gifts from your lover.
It’s very likely that your cheating lover is giving gifts to their secret lover. After all, gift giving is a huge part of dating. Look out for signs that someone has been buying gifts. For example, receipts for gift items that you haven’t received. Also, if you start to see retail store mailings coming to your home and you know you don’t shop at those stores, that might be proof as well. For example, if you start to see Victoria’s Secret catalogs arriving at the house, yet you don’t own a single Victoria’s Secret item, perhaps someone else is wearing the goods!
Has your lover started behaving suspiciously? Have they started bringing you gifts whenever you have conflict. This may be an attempt to keep peace in the house at whatever cost. If your lover wasn’t a gift giver before, you should be suspicious.
Cheaters use many tactics to hide their deception. One such tactic is giving a lot of gifts. They try to use gifts as a way to simulate content in the relationship. Have you noticed your lover suddenly giving you gifts for the smallest things? Has this started happening, yet they were not the type to give gifts? Maybe their gift giving is really a sign of affection, but a way to hide the fact that they have eyes for another.
Cheating costs! For men, they are often required to purchase gifts for their new loves. Finding a place to commit adultery often includes paying for hotels. Other common purchases include lingerie, alcohol, and other entertainment related expenses. If you start seeing strange purchases or unexplained purchases it might be a sign that something is awry. Also, once a person starts to shop at a particular retailer on a regular basis, they will start to receive coupons in the mail from that store. Watch out for coupons for expensive chocolates, alcohol, sexy clothing, lingerie, and jewelry stores. Note – most women aren’t the primary gift givers in a relationship. This may not be as applicable for women – although you should beware if unexplained gifts start appearing around the home.