It’s very easy to get into routines with your spouse. You notice little things like how they dress, what they wear, jewelry, etc. Check if your spouse is still wearing their wedding band when they go to work in the morning. Not wearing a wedding band is like a billboard to tell people they they are available on the market. If you see your spouse not wearing a wedding band – they may be cheating.
Cheaters will often use work as an excuse to be out of the house. They may pretend to be at work when they are cheating. They may use vacation days or personal days to sneak off to have dates. If you notice that your spouse doesn’t have enough vacation time during the holidays, but you can’t remember any holiday that they have taken, there may be something fishy going on.
This is most likely a sign of someone cheating with a coworker. It’s normal for a coworker to call from time to time. Even more so if they are calling for something work related. However, if you find that your partner is constantly talking to a coworker, and those calls are happening late at night, then there’s something up. Remember that your time in the evenings is “family time”. If you find that someone of the opposite sex is suddenly taking up that time, then there’s something wrong.
If you notice that your spouse’s coworkers have started to act strange around you - you should be concerned. If they struggle to make eye contact or no longer try to engage in conversation, it may be because they know your significant other is cheating. This is also a sign that the person that they are cheating with most likely works with them. While a lot of people have a don’t ask – don’t tell policy, their conscience may make them feel guilty when they have to face you!
Any person who works needs to decompress from their work stressors. If you were in a relationship and your lover would share tales of their work days with you, but suddenly isn’t interested in talking about work at all – something might be going on. Often if someone is cheating with a coworker, they will want to avoid talking about work. This will prevent them from accidentally putting too much emphasis on their secret lover. If your partner has never discussed work, then this might not be a sign.
Is your loved one suddenly taking working lunches all the time? Were you previously in a situation where you could spend lunches with your loved one – without warning? Be aware if your lover suddenly doesn’t want to see you during lunch time hours or becomes inaccessible during lunch. Your lover might be having lunch with someone else. Also be very suspicious if they get upset when you drop by unexpectedly for lunch or seem irritable when you do so. If you do drop by and they refuse to let you come in, or they only want to sit in your car, there might be a sign that there’s something going on.
Cheaters need many excuses to account for the time that they spend with their secret lovers. One of the oldest and most common excuses is claiming to be working late. Because they can easily leave the house to go to work, they don’t have to justify why they are there. There is also an element of blaming lateness on a need to work late to provide money for the household. Be suspicious if there is no benefit to working late. For example – no overtime, or no promotion to justify it. It becomes very difficult to argue with a breadwinner when they are seemingly inconveniencing themselves to earn more money for you. If your significant other is always working late, see if it’s something the entire team is doing. Also, offer to come by and provide dinner since they are working late. Check if you can actually reach your significant other when they are working late. Even though it’s sort of “stalkerish”, take a random drive past their office when they are working late and see if their car is still there. It’s possible that work has just become busy, but you should be able to quickly tell if this is really the case.