Is your spouse’s phone always ringing? They may be receiving calls from their significant lover. As an affair progresses, the secret lover may want to claim more of your spouse’s time. Since they cannot be there in person, they may start calling during family time to stake their claim. Pay attention to the phone always ringing.

If your lover has changed their ringer to be on silent all the time, they may be avoiding having you hear their phone ring constantly. This will make it seem like they are not being contacted by their secret lover. Be aware if your lover keeps their phone on silent lately.

Cell phone bills are dead giveaways for affairs. After all, they itemize calls, who called who, when they called, how long they spoke, and if they were trading text messages. Cheaters will definitely want to make sure that you don’t go through the cell phone bill in detail. They may suddenly decide to no longer get paper statements. They may give you some excuse about saving the environment. They may also rush to get the mail and remove the cell phone bills. This is a strong sign that someone is cheating.

Cheaters have to stay in contact to keep their relationships going. If you notice your partner suddenly using a pay as you go cell phone, they may be doing this for several reasons. The first reason is to prevent their lover from calling your home phone or a phone you may see. The second is to make sure that their lover doesn’t leave suspicious voicemails that may get them in trouble. The third is to avoid getting a monthly usage statement which can identify suspicious calls. The fourth is that the phone can be disposed of quickly, helping them quickly cut off communication if they need to.  Be very concerned if your significant other now uses a pay as you go cell phone.

Online chatting has gone from just being in front of a computer to also being on your cell phone. In fact, many people use their smart phones ( iPhone/ blackberry/ etc) as their primary access to instant messengers and internet. Have you noticed that your lover is always chatting? Do they always dismiss you when you ask who they are chatting with? They may just be cheating through instant messenger.

Was your lover the type of person who loved having the latest and greatest ring tone? Have they suddenly decided that they prefer their ringer not to go off? Have they made it so silent that it doesn’t even vibrate? This is another way to avoid undue attention to the calls a cheater is receiving. By keeping the phone on silent, you won’t notice that they are receiving calls. The flip side of this is that when you call them, you may find that they often don’t pick up immediately. It’s likely that they will call you back a few minutes after you’ve called because they have kept the phone on silent. This works both ways, with your main lover and with the person that you are cheating with. If your significant other has suddenly decided that they don’t like having a ringer on their cell phone, maybe something else is going on.

Does your lover’s phone keep ringing over and over but they are reluctant to pick up the phone? They should be avoiding calls from their other lover. They may also try to deflect attention from this fact by claiming that they want to focus their attention specifically on you and not be distracted by other things. If this keeps happening over and over, take a look and see who’s calling.

Your lover might be avoiding receiving calls from their secret lover when you are around. Also, as an affair intensifies, the other lover may start insisting on getting more of your lover’s time. It’s common for a cheater to turn their phone off so they don’t have to receive calls from the lover that they aren’t with at the moment. If you notice your lover suddenly keeping their phone off, they may be avoiding having to answer the phone in your presence.