Your intuition is perhaps the #1 sign that there is something off. It’s quite common for people to rationalize suspicious behavior. Sometimes things just aren’t quite right, yet we justify it by saying, they are stressed, things are busy, or it’s just in your head. Now don’t confuse intuition with paranoia. It’s easy to assume that because you suspect someone of cheating – they must be cheating. But make sure you suspect they are cheating because something is off. If you have been cheated on before, you may be tempted to just assume that everyone cheats. Thereby destroying all of your relationships – whether or not you’re being cheated on. If you think someone might be cheating on you – perhaps you should find a non-confrontational way to address it. Don’t be afraid to talk to your significant other. You shouldn’t come straight out and accuse them, but there’s no harm in telling them you are a bit concerned.

Laundry can be a dead give away for cheating. After all, soiled laundry means you’ve been doing some kind of physical activity. For a woman, her laundry may start smelling like a cologne that you are unfamiliar with. For men, their laundry may give away signs like lipstick stains on a color. Remember that women will often leave these stains in hopes of helping the man get caught. After all, if you are having an affair with someone, at some point you will want to be the main squeeze. So if your spouse won’t let you touch their laundry, maybe it’s because they are hiding something. You should be especially suspicious if they have refused to do laundry in the past and now suddenly refuse to let you do their laundry.

If they start asking these hypothetical type of questions, you should be concerned. Your spouse may be trying to secretly engage you in a conversation to help them feel better about their deception. If they keep pushing this point, they may also be trying to gauge how you will react if they ultimately tell you that they are in love with someone else. If they ask you this sort of stuff, you should definitely probe further.

Is your spouse acting strangely with your home phone? Have you noticed that your caller ID is always empty? Are they constantly deleting entries in the caller ID? If your spouse is doing this, they may be cheating on you. They are most likely trying to hide calls from their secret lover.

Cheaters will do a lot of things to ensure they don’t get caught. If your spouse watches the show Cheaters constantly, they may be doing more than just getting entertainment. They may be watching Cheaters so that they can see where people go wrong and get caught. Note also that Cheaters often comes on  at odd hours, so it’s likely that they won’t be sitting next to you when they watch it. If they watch Cheaters all the time – they may be trying to research ways to make sure they don’t get caught cheating.

There’s nothing suspicious about using birth control if there is a legitimate risk of falling pregnant. However, if you are sterile, perhaps because of having a vasectomy your wife should have no reason to fear pregnancy. If you are unable to reproduce and your wife has suddenly started taking birth control, you should be very concerned. You should be extremely concerned if she is concealing the fact that she’s taking birth control.

If your significant other is cheating, they maybe avoiding all conflict with you. They may suddenly become agreeable to many things that they previously didn’t agree to. This is to try and create an overly positive spin on the home life of the relationship to mask their activities with a secret lover. Beware if you have had doubts about someone cheating and then they suddenly have become completely agreeable to everything that you want.

Often when there is infidelity in a relationship, the cheater will start to withdraw from the relationship. A lack of motivation for the relationship will lead to reluctance to participate in any romantic activities. Does your lover come home and avoid talking to you? Do they suddenly sleep early? Do they wake up early and leave for work before talking with you? Do they avoid engaging with conversation or always try to invite people to be around so they don’t have to be alone with you? If you see signs like this – they may be pulling away from you because of emotional issues.

When you are in a serious relationship / marriage it is normal to be invited to accompany your significant other to events at their jobs. You should expect to be invited to company holiday parties, company games, and family days. If you were originally invited to such events but no longer receive these invitations something may be amiss. Your cheating partner may be interested in spending more time with the person they are cheating with at work. They may just not want to spend any more time with you than what they have to in order to maintain the relationship.

Has the passion in your relationship disappeared? Have hours of lovemaking devolved into 10 minute lazy displays of poor flexibility? Cheaters may find it difficult to share their affection with two people at full force. If you have noticed that your significant other is present but mentally absent, they may be spending their emotional energy elsewhere. Also, a cheater knows to make sure that they don’t ignore you or else you might get suspicious. But if their heart isn’t in the relationship, it will be difficult for them to be enthusiastic about being affectionate with you.