Imagine that you are walking with your husband in the mall and a woman walks up and says hi to him. She appears to be extremely familiar and engages in conversation for a moment or two. Now picture that this woman is someone that you have never seen before.  Does your husband introduce you? Does he tell you who she is or does he quickly tell you – oh she’s just a friend? This is a friend that has appeared out of thin air. If this person is very familiar with your spouse, they should be familiar with you too. Beware of people who just “pop up” out of thin air. Also, if you only meet friends of your spouse when they accidentally bump into them, they may be hiding something.

Your spouse should mention their friends from time to time. It’s possible that they will have friends who are female and male.  If you find that they only mention friends of the same sex, they may be avoiding mentioning friends of the opposite sex. It’s understandable that they won’t talk about them frequently but if you don’t know a single person of the opposite sex that knows your spouse, there might be something strange going on. Furthermore, they may not want you to know any person of the opposite sex that they are affiliated with. This is not a definitive sign, but it’s definitely a warning signal.