Has the passion in your relationship disappeared? Have hours of lovemaking devolved into 10 minute lazy displays of poor flexibility? Cheaters may find it difficult to share their affection with two people at full force. If you have noticed that your significant other is present but mentally absent, they may be spending their emotional energy elsewhere. Also, a cheater knows to make sure that they don’t ignore you or else you might get suspicious. But if their heart isn’t in the relationship, it will be difficult for them to be enthusiastic about being affectionate with you.

Has your lover started performing new sexual moves? Are they trying to get you to try things you have never done before? Are they suddenly interested in new sexual activities that they were previously uninterested by? Your cheating lover could be learning these new tricks from the person that they are cheating with. Be aware if you notice your lover suddenly having new fetishes for apparently no reason.

Has the chemistry of your relationship suddenly changed? There’s a familiarity that comes with regular sex with your lover. Adding a third person to this mix can affect the chemistry of the sex in your relationship. Are you bumping heads when you lean into kiss? Are you finding that your partner just isn’t getting aroused by the same things anymore? This is more of an intuition thing, but if you feel that for some reason things are just “off” in your sexual relations, there may be something else going on.

Sex is definitely more exciting with an affair. There is a newness and excitement with the taboo of forbidden sex. This sexually charged state can result in your lover wanting to have sex all the time. It’s also possible that your lover will increase their sex with you to hide the fact that they are getting sex elsewhere. It’s also common for a cheater to become more attentive during sex when they are cheating. This is done to try and mask the fact that their attention is actually elsewhere. Take note if your sex suddenly becomes more adventurous, with your partner pushing you to try new things they had no interest in before. Therefore, this means that an increase of sex is not a definitive indicator of sex. It’s just a sign that something might be going on.

It’s possible that your lover will want to withdraw from you if they are cheating. It’s hard to say how a cheater will behave. It’s possible they will feel guilty and not be able to have sex with you because they are considering the sex they are having elsewhere. They may also be unable to have sex with you without thinking of the person they are cheating with. A decrease in sex is not a definitive indicator of infidelity, but it may be a sign that there is something going on.

It’s common to think that a cheating partner will lose interest in you sexually. The thinking behind this is that they want less sex because they are getting it elsewhere. This can actually be the exact opposite. Your cheating lover may be feeling more sexually charged because they are getting new and exciting sex elsewhere. You may find that your sexually activity actually increases unexpectedly. Sex has a sort of chemistry. You know how sex is usually with your partner. Look out for changes in your sexual chemistry as well as significant changes in the type and frequency of the sex you have with your partner. Changes in that may indicate that there’s something going on.